Since I'm back on the dating scene, I've been thinking about if or when I should tell my future dates that I've frozen my eggs. Honestly, it's more when than if. Bringing up the egg freezing subject in general is tricky business. Never mind doing it when you're sitting across from a handsome guy with a beautiful smile that you've met 30 minutes ago. I'm getting anxiety replaying it...
If I feel a connection, should I bring it up on the first date? If I tell him on the second date, is the evening going to turn into a biology lesson on the female reproductive system? Yeah, that's real sexy. If I tell him on the third date, will there be a fourth date? If I lob it out there on the fourth date, will he say, "Why didn't you tell me sooner?" Well, I didn't want you to think I have baby fever and I didn't want to talk about it too early! You see the challenges here?
A few weeks ago, there was a great article by Sarah Elizabeth Richards in Elle called When Should I Tell Him I Froze My Eggs. Thank you Universe! The piece showed up at the perfect time! After reading this specific quote something in me shifted: "If a guy isn't cool with it, then he's not an open enough person for me."
And there you have it. It's not about choosing the perfect time to reveal the information. It's about sharing a part of my story and letting go of how he's going to receive it.
Ladies, no need to fret over the when, just be bold about who you are and put it out there. I think you'll be glad you did. I know I am.
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